Caring for a baby is a lot of hard work. It is emotionally, physically and mentally exhausting. Especially if you’re a first time mom, you’re stuck with random advice from friends and family and the worst thing is, they all contradict each other!
The roller coaster ride can be rough because as soon as you’re settling into w routine, your baby starts doing something new. So here is my list of top 7 concepts that you should familiarize yourself with, to make sure you know what to expect.
1. Post Partum Depression/Baby Blues
Over 80% of women suffer from the baby blues right after the birth of the baby. It’s exhausting, overwhelming and painful to care for a tiny little human that depends on you, that too with a cocktail of hormones messing up your brain and post delivery injuries. If you feel like crying for no reason, don’t beat yourself up about it, it’s completely natural. But if your baby blues last for more than 15 days and if you start getting thoughts of self harm or harming the baby you should consult with a psychiatrist immediately.
2. Cluster Feeding
When your baby is almost 2 weeks old, he/she will go on a feeding marathon. If you’re exclusively breast feeding, you will definitely miss out on a LOT of sleep and go through a lot of exhaustion. You will also hear people around you saying that your milk is not enough to satisfy your baby’s appetite and that you should switch to formula. While there’s nothing wrong with supplementing with formula, it’s best for your baby if you can battle it out and get through this time. Your baby is actually doing something called ‘cluster feeding’ which means your baby is developing well and is naturally boosting your milk supply for the months to come.
Even typing this out gives me shudders. Colic is a terrible terrible thing for both baby and parents. Since it’s such a lengthy topic, I won’t go into it but I would highly recommend you try gas drops, cycling, tummy time to help ease your baby’s pain.
The stuff of nightmares, it is a pain to watch your little one struggle to breathe through a blocked nose. Ease the pain by using some saline drops and the nosefrida, it’s a handy device that sucks out the snot from your baby’s nose without any intrusive method such as the bulb syringe.
5. Sleep Regression/Growth Spurt
Boy oh boy. Just when your little one is settled in a routine (probably in the 6th) month, you will have to deal with long sleepless nights once again. Because your baby is learning new tricks such as rolling over, trying to sit up and crawl, he/she is building up a lot of energy and by sleep time, is either too excited or too tired to sleep. Sleep regression is often linked with growth spurts that usually happen in the 4th, 6th and 9th month. I found that massaging her tiny legs at night helped calm her down but most times you’ll just have to wait it out. Sleep regression lasts from anywhere between 2 to 6 weeks.
Although I haven’t personally experienced this one yet since Samar is in her pre-teething phase, let me tell you this. Invest in a really good teething toy that is easy to grip and made of non toxic rubber. I invested in Sophie the Giraffe that you can get off Amazon for around $10 and it’s her favorite thing in the world.
7. Separation Anxiety
Somewhere around the 6th or 7th month, your baby will start to notice when you leave. Sadly, since she has a terrible memory right now, she won’t remember that you always come back. She’ll think you’re leaving her and moving to Russia. This might result in extreme clingy and fussy behavior and a crying session that will make your heart wrench. Don’t worry because eventually your baby will realize that you always come back and this will end only to begin again when she’s a toddler!
I hope you ladies do some more research on these words and you power through motherhood like queens!
Happy Parenting 🙂